As we get older, certain conditions become much more common. While most of us think of arthritis, muscle pain, or insomnia, one of the more insidious conditions that plague seniors is depression. The only thing worse than how common depression is in seniors, according to the National Institute on Aging, is how hard it can be to manage. While depression can be a struggle, the following tips can help you manage it in your aging loved ones. Tip #1: Look For The Symptoms The first thing you have to do in order to manage depression is to recognize the symptoms in your loved ones. While things like lethargy and distraction may be due to natural aging, there are other, clearer symptoms that should run up red flags when you see them. Things like not eating for extended periods of time, or no longer taking pleasure in activities that once brought them joy. This list of potential symptoms of senior depression from Help Guide is good to keep around. Also, remember, everyone gets sad sometimes. It’s when these symptoms stick around and refuse to go away that you need to start worrying over them. Sadness or feelings of despair Unexplained or aggravated aches and pains Loss of interest in socializing or hobbies Weight loss or loss of appetite Feelings of hopelessness or helplessness Lack of motivation and energy Sleep disturbances (difficulty falling asleep or staying asleep, oversleeping, or daytime sleepiness) Loss of self-worth (worries about being a burden, feelings of worthlessness or self-loathing) Slowed movement or speech Increased use of alcohol or other drugs Fixation on death; thoughts of suicide Memory problems Neglecting personal care (skipping meals, forgetting meds, neglecting personal hygiene) Tip #2: Keep Your Lines of Communication Open Depression is like a weight hanging around your shoulders, and even if you want to reach out to others for help it can feel like a monumental task to do so. That’s why you need to take the initiative, and check-in with your loved one. Not just a casual, “Hey, how are you doing?” either. You need to establish open communication, and to build trust between the two of you. Most importantly, you need to reach for your loved one, and make sure they have support from you. Because on days where things are really bad, they may not be able to reach for you. Tip #3: Let Them Do Things On Their Own It’s an unfortunate truth that the older we get, the more things we can no longer do on our own. Even things we once took for granted, like quickly going up a flight of stairs or driving might be out of reach. However, as anyone who has needed a little assistance to get through the day can tell you, it’s important to still do things for yourself. So, if your loved one is depressed, don’t just complete tasks for them. Instead, support them, and let them do things for themselves. It will give them a sense of accomplishment, instead of feeling like a burden. Tip #4: Create A Sense of Purpose Seniors who don’t have anything to do with themselves can often feel listless and disconnected. This is why so many seniors seek out volunteer work, hobbies, or other activities to keep themselves busy. This sense of purpose can help manage depression, help build community ties, and keep the senior engaged in meaningful ways. There is only so much you can do on your own when it comes to managing an elderly loved one’s depression. While you might be able to handle some days, it’s important to talk with the senior in your life about seeing a professional. Therapists can dedicate time, effort, energy and resources to helping your loved one in ways you might not be able to and they’ll have greater insight into the problems being faced. Not only that, but professionals may be able to find solutions that you and your loved one can both work toward, acting as a trailblazer to help guide you through the tangled jungle that depression can become. In addition, you might want to explore how home care could help ease the load on you and the depression for your loved one. Elderlink Home Care, Inc. can offer a whole range of assistance with activities of daily living. To find out more, simply give us a call.
