The majority of people, when asked, prefer to stay in their own homes for as long as possible. People need to feel they have control, and when they are in their own homes, they set the standards. Simple things like when to wake up, when to eat and when to bathe are personal choices that can not be accommodated in an institutional setting.
Selling a home that has been lived in for many years can be a difficult process whether a loved one has passed or is just moving into a nursing home. Many memories have been made that hold a multitude of emotions and it is hard to let it all go. Here are a few steps to help ease the stress of preparing your loved one’s home for sale. Be Patient If time isn’t of the essence put a 60-90 day freeze on all decision making. During that time leave everything in the home as-is except for expiring food, medicines, and anything else that could leave a bad odor. This hold-over time period will give friends and family time to grieve, time to process the options, and time to remember the home exactly how it was while your loved one still lived there. Get Expert Help A lawyer should be one of your first calls as they can help get the necessary paperwork in order such as a power of attorney and will. They can also help you navigate through probate. Seeking legal advice about selling a home is always advised as it can greatly affect the title of the home. Next, a realtor will be able to talk about all of your options when it comes to selling. Since a realtor doesn’t have any emotional attachment to the house, they will be able to be matter of fact and tell you the current market value of the home. A realtor will also let you know which items should be updated to get the most money out of the house. Declutter It can be difficult to let things go, but a house must be de-personalized in order to sell for top dollar. If the process is too difficult or daunting to do on your own, you might consider hiring an estate sale company to host an estate sale. If this is the route you go, it is best to step away from the process and let the professionals do their job. If you prefer to go through items yourself, consider hiring an appraiser or specialist to look at antiques to find out their true value. Less valuable items can be donated so you know they are going to a good home. Non-profit businesses that are usually seeking donations include Goodwill, Salvation Army, and Habitat for Humanity Restores. Update/Repairs A lived-in home will have signs of wear & tear. At a minimum fix cracked tiles, patch holes in walls, give the home a coat of fresh neutral paint, replace burned out lightbulbs, and remove curtains to let the most light in. You might also consider installing new carpet and flooring. To get the most money out of the home, consider doing a kitchen and bathroom remodel as those spaces tend to be the biggest selling points of a house. If you don’t have time for a major renovation you can update simple items such as replacing light fixtures, faucets, and hinges. In the bathrooms add a few stacked washcloths tied with a ribbon, add lightly scented candles, and buy matching bathmats & towels in a light green, blue or white tone. Your realtor might also suggest hiring a professional stager, who will bring in contemporary furniture to enhance the homes attractiveness to potential buyers. Clean, Clean, Clean One of the last steps inside the home is to give it a good cleaning. If you don’t mind putting in the elbow grease, then begin with washing the windows, vacuuming, dusting, wiping down all surfaces, and polishing appliances. You can also consider hiring a cleaning company, who can come in and make the home sparkle in just a few hours. Curb Appeal Lastly, spruce up the landscaping and front entrance of the home which might have become neglected. Trim shrubs, add flowers, mow the lawn, give the front door a fresh coat of paint, and paint faded trim. In addition, certain buyer’s loan types such as FHA & VA will require rotted deck boards be replaced, that peeling paint is fixed, and any broken windows be repaired. If you are ready to take the next step in selling, call lMike Lies with Gold Compass Real Estate at 303-325-5690.
Let’s face it. As your loved ones age, they will usually need help and assistance. And so often, their grown children already have huge demands on their time. So expecting them to provide all the care needed is not really feasible. However, our aging loved ones are often very resistant to accepting that they need a caregiver or personal aide. This can then cause frustration and tension on all sides. If you have an aging parent relative who needs in-home help, then it can be hard to work out how to approach them and how to convince them that they (and you) need the extra assistance. Here are some things to consider: 1. Choose the right time. Right after a holiday or another stressful event is often a poor time to broach the issue, even if it might be the time you realize that more help is definitely needed. Choose a time when you are both relaxed. Consider inviting them over for dinner and then bringing it up afterwards, when everyone is calm. Be ready to table the discussion and bring it up multiple times, or to delay the discussion until another time if tensions are high. 2. Suggest a trial period. If your loved one is worried about loss of independence or privacy, a trial period can help allay their fears. And, of course, a trial period will make sure that the right kind of help has really been selected and allow them to talk to several caregivers and find somebody they are comfortable with. 3. Communicate. Nobody wants to feel that a solution is being pushed on them from outside. Start by finding out why your loved one is having issues – is it fear of their privacy being invaded? Pride? Loss of independence? Grief? In some cases, accepting help after the loss of one’s long-term partner can be particularly difficult. Discovering the reason for the resistance is the first step to helping work through it. Your solutions should involve the elderly person as an active partner, even (and perhaps especially) if they are experiencing the first stages of cognitive decline. 4. Stress the positive. A home caregiver can be the best way for your parent to keep their independence. Bring up things that they used to do and cannot do any more. Are they starting to get embarrassed by the state of their yard? Do they wish they could still read books, but are finding it hard to get audio or large print versions of what they enjoy? An aide can also be a way to continue to visit museums, go to the movies, or take walks. 5. Make it about the help you need, not just them. Many people will be resistant to accept help for themselves, but far more willing to accept it on behalf of others. If you explain that the time you are spending on them is interfering with your work, marriage, or the things you really need to do, then they may be more willing to accept outside help. Dealing with a loved one who needs extra help can be a challenge. You need to accept that they can still make their own choices and not push care on them unless there are immediate safety issues involved. However, getting them to be willing to accept home care can help reduce family tensions, free up your life, and allow them to age in place for longer. When they are ready to accept help and you have discussed their needs with them, contact Elderlink Home Care or call us at 303-734-0641. We offer custom in-home care for specific needs. Our caregivers provide assistance in personal matters and on outings for shopping or leisure, and we will match your relative with the perfect caregiver for their unique situation.
Elderlink Home Care, Inc. is very excited to announce the winner of our ‘Celebrating 30 Years’ grant for June, 2018, Mrs. Pauline FaFoutis! Pauline, 88, was born in Greece and has lived in Colorado for 52 years. Mrs. FaFoutis, a stroke survivor, lives in Highlands Ranch part-time with her daughter, Dessie and part-time with her other daughter, Gina. She was nominated by Dessie who said her mom has “exhibited the strength of a champ” and despite her inability to speak due to her stroke, ‘exhibits a positive, joyful attitude.’ Pauline and her husband owned restaurants in Colorado and Wyoming and she also worked as a bookkeeper. She has 3 children and 4 grandchildren and is extremely proud of her Greek heritage. Here she is pictured with her daughters Dessie (left) and Gina (center) and Gina’s daughter, Lexi (right). Pauline will be using the grant award to help pay for home care! Congratulations, Mrs. FaFoutis! We are thrilled to announce you as our winner for June, 2018!
When a loved one has Alzheimer’s or Dementia, interaction may be more difficult than it was before. You may struggle to understand their mindset and thought process or be unsure of how to diffuse potentially problematic situations. Fortunately, there are several things you can do to comfort people in your life with dementia and smooth the care process. 1. Empathize Actively If a loved one has Dementia, they may become easily confused by what is happening around them. They may not be sure of the time period in which they are living or who is with them. You may not be able to restore their ability to understand what’s going on. However, arguing with them will just frustrate everyone involved! By empathizing actively and trying to understand what they’re going through, on the other hand, you can remove many of the barriers and make it easier to deal with a difficult situation. 2. Interact in a Positive Way When a loved one or an individual under your care has Dementia, it’s easy to slip into the habit of acting like the parent. Treating them like a child, however, can undermine their sense of self-worth and leave them feeling more off-balance than before! Instead, try to interact in a respectful and positive way. Take the time to listen to their opinions and adapt to them when possible. 3. Break Activities Into Steps When you’re dealing with Alzheimer’s or dementia, it’s important to break down regular activities into smaller steps to make them more manageable. This can be everything from taking a walk to getting ready for the day. Breaking down tasks into a series of smaller tasks makes them more approachable and manageable for an individual with Alzheimer’s or dementia. When you break down the tasks ahead of you, you can tackle each small one at a time. This can also make it easier for dementia sufferers to focus on the task currently at hand, rather than getting overwhelmed with the entire process which may cause them to get agitated and shut down completely. 4. Recall Good Memories Recalling the “good old days” is often soothing and comforting for someone suffering from dementia. Take the time to talk about old and/or positive memories. Look through pictures together. Ask questions and genuinely listen to what they have to say. You’ll discover that looking back on old memories isn’t just a great way to calm them; it’s also an excellent bonding opportunity that can help both of you actively remember happier times as you continue to build a relationship. 5. Deliver Your Message Clearly Speaking to someone with dementia can be incredibly frustrating, especially if you feel they aren’t able to absorb the message you’re trying to give them. When you’re struggling to communicate, try using short, clear sentences and simple, one-step instructions. Be careful not to slip into the habit of talking to your loved one like a child, but provide them with the information they need in an easy-to-understand manner to make it easier for both of you to communicate. You don’t have to use the patronizing method of speaking loudly and slowly to the elderly, which will undermine their sense of self-worth; do, however, slow down and take the time to break down what you have to say in a way that can be easily understood. Caring for a loved one with Alzheimer’s or dementia can be a difficult process. When you follow these five simple methods, however, you can break down communication barriers and make it easier to interact. Of course, remember that our Elderlink Home Care, Inc. team has over 30 years of experience providing Alzheimer’s and dementia support. If you are struggling or feeling overwhelmed, our caregivers can help! Call us today, at (303) 734-0641 or contact us via our website to learn how we can help!
As your parents age, it may be more difficult for them to take care of daily tasks and responsibilities. Simple self-care becomes more challenging and taking care of tasks around the house may be more daunting than it’s ever been before. Simply charging in and taking over, however, won’t help you or your aging loved one. Not only will it add a heavy dose of responsibility to your shoulders, it may be hard on your parent’s self-esteem or feelings of independence. By learning how to balance those key tasks, you can improve your interactions with your parent while ensuring they get the care they need. 1. Let Them Lead For many years, your parent was responsible for taking care of themselves–and for taking care of you! As they age, they still need to lead the self-care process as much as possible. It may take longer to wait patiently for your parent to complete a task when they’re the one leading the way, but providing them with that extra independence can help improve their self-esteem and make them feel more capable even as their physical abilities deteriorate. 2. Ensure Their Health After hospital stays or a new medical diagnosis, your aging loved one may need more care than before. Take care to monitor medication to ensure that they’re taking it properly, especially if forgetfulness is setting in. It may also be helpful to attend doctor’s appointments with them, particularly after a new diagnosis or injury. 3.Address Emotional Needs, Too It’s easy, as an adult child, to get caught up in your parent’s physical needs. There are so many things to take care of, especially when you’re balancing the need to keep up with their needs as well as your own. It’s important, however, to keep an eye on emotional needs as well as physical ones. Take the time to sit down and have a genuine conversation. Exchange kind words. Make sure to evaluate your parent’s emotional state and take action if they seem to become depressed or anxious. These simple steps can have a big impact on your loved one over time! 4. Remain Respectful Your parent has not become a child in spite of the fact that they now need your help and care. When interacting with your parent, be respectful! Keep in mind that they still have the right to make their own choices, and you should ask for their opinion before making a choice for them. Take the time to think through how your actions will impact them, especially if you’re making decisions that may reduce their independence. 5. Prepare the Home You’re well aware that certain hazards increase as your loved one ages. Keep an eye on potential fall hazards and problems in the kitchen, bathrooms and around the rest of the house. You don’t want to sweep in and take over, but you do want to be sure that the home is as safe as possible! Take the time to remove cords and unnecessary clutter from common areas. When necessary, install grab bars in the bathroom to help your loved one keep their balance. As you take these simple steps, you’ll help ensure your loved one’s safety. Providing care for an aging parent or loved one can be a struggle, but doing so respectfully and lovingly is well worth the effort. Remember, our Elderlink Home Care, Inc. team has over 30 years of experience helping our clients age gracefully and comfortably in their own homes. If you are struggling or need help, we are ready to lend a helping hand. Call us on (303) 734-0641 today to learn how we can help provide the care your loved one needs.
As we age one of our great fears is the loss or significant decrease of our mental faculties. Our mind is one of our great assets as human beings. However, getting older does not have to signal the loss of mental capabilities. They are plenty of ways to stay sharp over the years. Just because your body is not as active as it used to be does not mean that your mind also has to follow suit! Here are some great ways to keep your mind sharp! 1. Stimulation The mind is very much like a muscle in a lot of respects. In one aspect, the more you work it out and stimulate it, the healthier and more active it will be. Research indicates that keeping your mind moving (stimulated) helps promote neural activity, can create new connections between nerve cells and even help generate new cells which can combat the loss of cells due to aging. Some great ways to work out your brain is to read books, stories, news articles, etc., play word games and other puzzles such as Sudoku or crosswords. Also, engage in activities that require your mind and body to work as one (activities that are great are the arts such as painting, playing music, etc.). 2. Exercise Physical exercise is not only great for your body, but it is also great for your mind! Research shows that regular exercise increases the amount of tiny blood vessels carrying oxygen laden blood to the parts of the brain that promote thought. Besides promoting more thought, exercise also promotes cellular growth of nerves and increased connections between the brain’s synapses. With exercise, comes lower blood pressure, cholesterol, stress and a host of other health benefits that are not only beneficial for an aging heart, but also an aging mind. 3. Socialization Having friends, a sense of community and socialization is great for morale and your overall quality of life. However, new research has shown that people who maintain a large group of friends or socialize regularly decrease their risk of dementia. The feeling of loneliness has been linked to mental decline as we age. Part of a balanced, healthy life is regular socialization. Going out and making friends is a great way to stay young in more ways than one! 4. Writing Stimulating your brain can also be achieved by writing. Writing (even non-fiction) makes your brain stronger. The connections you make and create on paper help stimulate neural activity. As we’ve already discussed, the more active a brain is, the healthier it will be. Writing is a great way to really strengthen your brain and engage creative and critical thinking. 5. Sleep The proper amount of rest is one of the most crucial aspects of maintaining a healthy brain. This is especially true as we age. The proper amount of sleep not only boosts your overall mood and sharpens your memory, but it also ensures that you are more alert and focused and ready to take on daily tasks and challenges. 6. Proper Diet Taking care of your body is more than just getting enough sleep and exercising your mind and body. A large component to our overall health, especially as it pertains to the brain, is eating a proper, balanced diet. Not only does a poor diet put more stress on your body, but it also puts more stress on your mind, which makes stimulating brain health or development difficult. 7. Quit Smoking and Drinking Smoking and drinking are bad for your health; we all know this, but they are also bad for your brain. Smoking leads to the build-up of plaque in your arteries, which increases your risk of stroke and it makes it harder for your heart to pump blood, which puts strain and stress on it, which puts stress on your brain. Drinking, on the other hand, has been shown to decrease cognitive abilities over the years and seriously affect memory alongside a host of other liver and heart related health concerns. Please contact us to learn more about the home care services we provide.
Elderlink Home Care, Inc. is very excited to announce the winner of our ‘Celebrating 30 Years’ grant for May, 2018, Claudia Hill. Mrs. Hill was nominated by her very close friend of 30 years, Nancy Stroud (pictured above with Claudia). Claudia, 83, has lived here in Colorado her entire life and really loves it here! The earlier years of her life were spent raising her 3 sons and working in a variety of different fields including teaching and real estate! She has 10 grandchildren. Mrs. Hill and her husband, Michael, love to travel and did a lot of it prior to his Alzheimer’s diagnosis 5 years ago. Her favorite place she has visited is Spain. One of her sons also lived there for work for a period of time. Michael is currently living in New Dawn Memory Care, where Claudia is able to visit him often. When asked what her plans were for her $300 grant award, she stated she would really like to ‘pay it forward’ and donate some games, activities, or other supplies to New Dawn Memory Care and help enrich the lives of the residents there, which we think is so gracious of her! Congratulations Mrs. Claudia Hill! We are so happy to present you with this $300 grant.
As you get older, you’ll have plenty of struggles along the way. Many of the common signs and symptoms you often associate with aging, however, may not be as severe as you think! By combating the myths of aging, you’ll discover that you can live a full, healthy lifestyle throughout your important golden years! Myth #1: Your Brain Deteriorates Over Time Sure, as you age, you may naturally struggle more to remember simple things, and it may be harder to grasp new concepts–but that doesn’t have to be the case. Your brain is capable of developing new connections and learning and understanding new concepts. Make sure that you’re conducting proper brain activities on a regular basis to help improve your continued processing ability. Play brain games, learn how to do new things, and embrace the opportunity to grow your mind. Myth #2: Older People Don’t Need Close Relationships The need for community and connection doesn’t go away as you age. Older people need close relationships just as much as younger ones–and it’s important that you take the time to develop them. Take a class, attend an activity or club on a regular basis, and look for other ways to connect with people. Develop friendships. If you’re feeling lonely, check out a local senior center or become involved with a local senior group. Relationships can help keep your mind sharp and improve your overall health–and that’s well worth investing in. Myth #3: You’ll Become Frail as You Age While frailty comes with age for many individuals, you don’t have to give in and assume you’re going to be frail and breakable just because of the number of candles on your cake! Instead, work with a trainer to develop an exercise routine that will help keep you strong and flexible. Proper nutrition and vitamins can also help keep your bones strong even as aging tries to threaten them. Also, be sure to visit your doctor on a regular basis. The longer you stay active in your senior years, the longer you’ll be able to stay active and the more you’ll be able to do and enjoy! Myth #4: Aging Makes You Less Creative During your senior years, you have more time on your hands to explore all of the creative gifts you may have let slide by the wayside when you were younger. Many people find that, with free time to use to full advantage, they’re able to be more creative through their senior years than they ever were when they were young. Pick up a new hobby or embrace the ones that you had to ignore due to the demands of raising a family or working full-time. You may be surprised by just how much you’re able to accomplish–and by how much you enjoy it! Myth #5: Your Genes Determine How You Age While your genes may have some impact on how well you’re able to age, it’s your lifestyle that really impacts the aging process. When you choose to stay active, eat healthy, and keep your brain sharp, you’ll discover that you’re in a better position to age well and gracefully. Ditching bad habits like alcohol and tobacco consumption as young as possible can also help decrease the signs and symptoms of aging so that you’re able to better enjoy your senior years. You don’t have a choice about getting older, but there are many things you can do to help increase your odds of growing older with grace. By combating the myths of aging, you’ll discover that you can live a full, healthy lifestyle well into your retirement years, enjoying everything going on around you. Do you or a loved one need more help to live the full lifestyle you want? Contact us to learn more about we can help you or a loved one reach your goals.
Aging isn’t always fun. As you age, there some changes that are inevitable and in fact natural. While they may feel worrisome, especially as you figure out how to deal with those symptoms, you shouldn’t worry too much when key signs of aging begin to arise. By becoming aware of the differences in your body as you age, you can continue aging with grace, saving your worry for potentially dangerous symptoms. Sign #1: Decreasing Strength and Stamina As you age, it’s natural to no longer have the energy and strength you had when you were young. You may find that you’re not able to accomplish some of the same things you did when you were younger or that it’s harder to get through those extremely busy, draining days. It’s more important than ever to keep up a good exercise routine as you age. This can help improve both strength and stamina and keep you feeling younger longer. Sign #2: Skin Changes As you get older, you will most likely notice your skin will change. It will become thinner and more fragile, which means that it will tear and bruise more easily. You may find that you have more problems with injuries or even that you have unexplained bruises that you don’t recognize or remember. Age spots, which are natural darkening of the pigments of the skin in some areas, may also start to appear. While you’ll want to be more careful about bumps and dings, thinning skin isn’t a sign of trouble. It’s a perfectly normal sign of aging. Sign #3: Sleep Changes As you get older, your need for sleep will change–and it’s not always predictable! Some people may find they need more sleep as they get older. This may mean a nap in the middle of the day or sleeping later in the morning. Others find that they simply don’t need as much sleep or that it’s harder to fall asleep at night. By establishing a routine and getting your circadian rhythms set so that your body knows when it’s expected to sleep, you can continue to get the amount of sleep that’s right for you. This will help you feel well-rested and ready to tackle your day. Sign #4: Loss of Taste Many of the symptoms of aging aren’t fun, but losing or decreasing your sense of taste can be a real struggle! As you age, the intensity of taste may decrease. This may mean that some of your favorite foods no longer have the rich flavors that you’re used to enjoying or that you may start to like foods that weren’t appealing in the past. Hot and spicy foods, for example, may seem to have a more appropriate flavor punch. Many seniors also start to develop an increasing sweet tooth as they age. Sign #5: Aging Eyesight It’s natural for your eyesight to decline with age. You might notice that it’s harder to see at night or that you struggle to see small print when it’s right in front of you. Your depth perception and ability to judge colors may also begin to decrease. If you notice that you have blind spots in your vision or that there seems to be a haze over everything, on the other hand, it’s time to pay a fast visit to your eye doctor to discuss your symptoms. Learning to cope with the signs and symptoms of aging can be a challenge. If you need additional help adjusting to these changes or taking care of the daily tasks that improve your quality of life, contact us! We’ll work with you to maintain the independence you desire!
